Thoughts

Essays, observations, questions, and reflections on life, learning, people, and ideas.

Sometimes a Toy Is Worth More Than Us
Sep 7, 2026 · 2 min read
A Personal Blog Lets Ideas Stay
Aug 5, 2026 · 2 min read
A Year Needs Landmarks
May 10, 2026 · 1 min read
What Kind of Learner Did You Become?
Apr 18, 2026 · 2 min read
Progress Is Sometimes Subtraction
Jan 24, 2026 · 1 min read
We Return to Places to Measure Ourselves
Oct 26, 2025 · 1 min read
Beauty Is What Asks the Eye to Return
Aug 29, 2025 · 5 min read
Old Hobbies Let Us Meet Earlier Versions of Ourselves
Jul 20, 2025 · 2 min read
Small Projects Close the Loop
Mar 8, 2025 · 2 min read
Announcing Change Can Become a Substitute for Change
Feb 9, 2025 · 1 min read
Adult Joy Is Quieter
Jan 25, 2025 · 1 min read
Giving Ordinary Days Some Attention
Jan 20, 2025 · 1 min read
Children Learn What Power Looks Like
Jan 17, 2025 · 1 min read
The Cave Is Easier When It Is Familiar
Dec 25, 2024 · 1 min read
Identity May Be a Story of Continuity
Nov 28, 2024 · 1 min read
Do Not Make Every Problem a Verdict
Oct 11, 2024 · 1 min read
You Can Be Wronged Without Becoming Powerless
Sep 21, 2024 · 1 min read
The Self That Refuses Correction
Aug 8, 2024 · 1 min read
Unclaimed Attention Gets Claimed
Jul 5, 2024 · 1 min read
When Waiting Protects an Answer
Jun 17, 2024 · 1 min read
What Part of This Is Mine?
May 8, 2024 · 1 min read
Loneliness Is Not the Absence of People
Apr 24, 2024 · 1 min read
Some Knowledge Only Appears After You Begin
Mar 11, 2024 · 1 min read
Regret Is Not Proof You Chose Badly
Feb 14, 2024 · 1 min read
The Journey Is Not the Waiting Room
Jan 21, 2024 · 1 min read
Every Explanation Inherits Something
Jan 11, 2024 · 1 min read
Choose What Is Worth the Cost
Jul 8, 2023 · 1 min read
Status Is a Shortcut, Not a Verdict
Mar 20, 2023 · 1 min read
Silence Does Not Explain Itself
Mar 13, 2023 · 2 min read
Curiosity Has Room to Grow Older
Jan 4, 2023 · 1 min read
A First Impression Is a Hypothesis
Oct 6, 2022 · 1 min read
You Are Central to Your Experience, Not to Everyone Else
Aug 11, 2022 · 1 min read
Strength Is Not the Absence of Damage
Jul 27, 2022 · 1 min read
Discomfort Is Not a Verdict
Jul 7, 2022 · 1 min read
Pain Is Not a Competition
Jun 28, 2022 · 1 min read
The Days We Miss Were Once Ordinary
Jun 4, 2022 · 1 min read
We Begin in the Middle of Things
Mar 18, 2022 · 1 min read
Teaching Should Leave Something Unfinished
Jul 21, 2021 · 1 min read
A Belief Should Risk Losing
Jun 12, 2021 · 1 min read
Other People Lend Us Their Memory
May 2, 2021 · 1 min read
Some Voices in Your Head Are Inherited
Apr 22, 2021 · 1 min read
Luck Needs Something to Land On
Apr 12, 2021 · 1 min read
A Thought Is Not Yet a Conclusion
Mar 17, 2021 · 1 min read
Expertise Hides Its Own Steps
Oct 6, 2020 · 1 min read
When Every Finish Line Moves
Sep 17, 2020 · 1 min read
Distraction Is Often a Way of Avoiding Ourselves
Aug 20, 2020 · 1 min read
A Good Friend Is Someone You Can Be Less Edited Around
Aug 1, 2020 · 1 min read
Systems Matter Most After Motivation Leaves
Jul 3, 2020 · 1 min read
Uncertainty Is Not an Empty Position
Mar 12, 2020 · 1 min read
Most Days Do Not Feel Important
Dec 16, 2019 · 1 min read
Freedom Is Having a Meaningful No
Nov 6, 2019 · 1 min read
Friendship Needs a Structure
Oct 6, 2019 · 1 min read
A Truffle Is Not a Failed Apple
Sep 14, 2019 · 1 min read
We Perform More Than We Admit
Jul 4, 2019 · 1 min read
Thinking Can Become a Shelter
Jun 22, 2019 · 1 min read
Changing Your Mind Is Not Losing
Mar 24, 2019 · 1 min read
The Starting Line Is Not Chosen
Mar 22, 2019 · 1 min read
Not Everything Good Can Be Optimized
Feb 19, 2019 · 1 min read
Every Room Has an Emotional Climate
Feb 7, 2019 · 1 min read
Convenience Can Narrow a Life
Jan 11, 2019 · 1 min read
Discipline Is Mostly Removing Decisions
Dec 15, 2018 · 1 min read
Avoidance Charges Interest
Nov 28, 2018 · 1 min read
Borrowed Knowledge Feels Like Our Own
Nov 18, 2018 · 1 min read
Not Every Need Becomes Your Duty
Oct 6, 2018 · 1 min read
Podcasts Borrow the Empty Parts of a Day
Aug 26, 2018 · 1 min read
Admire the Work, Not the Statue
Jul 7, 2018 · 1 min read
Confidence Is Not the Same as Self-Trust
Oct 6, 2017 · 1 min read
Pain Does Not Owe Us a Lesson
Oct 6, 2017 · 1 min read
Some Friendships Do Not Need Constant Proof
Sep 17, 2017 · 1 min read
Plans Break Where Reality Begins
Feb 14, 2017 · 1 min read
Being Right Is Not Enough
Feb 13, 2017 · 1 min read
Recognizing a Power Game Is Not the Same as Playing It
Feb 12, 2017 · 1 min read
Not Every Conflict Deserves a Battle
Feb 11, 2017 · 1 min read
Power Is Judged by Consequences
Feb 10, 2017 · 1 min read
Trust Is What Makes Honesty Affordable
Oct 6, 2016 · 1 min read
Goodness Needs Institutions
Feb 14, 2016 · 1 min read
Patience Is Not Waiting
Oct 6, 2015 · 1 min read
A Good Job Can Still Be the Wrong Life
Oct 6, 2015 · 2 min read
Unfinished Things Keep Asking for Attention
Sep 20, 2015 · 1 min read
I Do Not Know Is a Professional Skill
Oct 19, 2014 · 1 min read
Growing Up Means Learning Which Voice Is Yours
Oct 6, 2014 · 1 min read
Character Appears in Small Transactions
Jul 7, 2014 · 1 min read
Imagined Futures Can Become Real Burdens
Oct 6, 2013 · 1 min read
Most of Us Will Be Forgotten
Oct 6, 2012 · 1 min read
Words That Wait for a Better Room
Jul 7, 2012 · 4 min read
Why I Finally Understood Gym Gloves
Jun 28, 2012 · 5 min read
Love Can Become an Expectation
Oct 6, 2011 · 1 min read
A Good Life Is Not Always a Pleasant One
Apr 6, 2011 · 1 min read
A Useful Memory Is Not a Perfect Archive
Apr 5, 2011 · 1 min read
Speed Can Hide Impatience
Apr 4, 2011 · 1 min read
We Need to Know Whose Hands Are on the Controls
Apr 3, 2011 · 2 min read
Waiting for Company Can Become Waiting for Permission
Mar 30, 2011 · 4 min read
Not Every Voice in Your Head Is Yours
Oct 6, 2010 · 1 min read
You Do Not Choose to Forget
Jul 4, 2010 · 3 min read
Silence Collects Its Own Evidence
Jun 18, 2010 · 4 min read
The Statue You Keep Carving Until It Breaks
Jun 12, 2010 · 4 min read
A Feeling Does Not Require a Category
Apr 24, 2010 · 4 min read
Love Was the Good Morning I Took for Granted
Apr 24, 2010 · 3 min read
Replacement Is Not Neutral
Dec 26, 2009 · 4 min read
When 'I'm Not Ready for a Relationship' Means 'Not with You'
Nov 4, 2009 · 4 min read
You Cannot Make Someone Happy
Oct 6, 2009 · 1 min read
A Beginner's Guide to Unspoken Love
May 23, 2009 · 4 min read
Patterns Make Decisions Before We Notice
May 16, 2009 · 1 min read
When the Gold Paint Comes Off
Jan 5, 2009 · 2 min read
Sometimes Distance Is Not Bitterness, It Is Structure
Jan 3, 2009 · 4 min read
Manuals Teach the Questions I Did Not Know to Ask
Nov 18, 2007 · 2 min read