We can all become better individuals
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In today’s world, we tend to look at a person’s skills and knowledge before we judge them. However, these qualities don’t necessarily reflect a person’s true character. A person may be highly talented, but if they don’t keep their promises, lack loyalty, or fail to uphold their word, then all their skills and knowledge are meaningless. In this context, it’s essential to evaluate people based on their moral values and ethics rather than their abilities. If someone is truthful, keeps their promises, and is loyal, then they are worthy of praise and admiration, no matter what their skills or knowledge may be. Such people are rare, and they possess a quality that is far more superior than mere talent.
Unfortunately, we live in a society that values fame and popularity over everything else. People often chase fame and fortune at the cost of their morals and ethics, and in the end, they end up empty-handed. The pursuit of fame may bring temporary satisfaction, but it’s not a sustainable way of living. Instead, we should strive to discover our true selves, without getting distracted by superficial things like popularity.
To achieve this, we must let go of our egos and embrace unity. Every person has the same soul, and we should treat everyone with respect and kindness, regardless of their background, race, or beliefs. By embracing unity, we can all become a part of something greater, like a vast ocean. This is the path towards true happiness and fulfillment, not just temporary pleasure. Moreover, we should also strive to be aware of our emotions and feelings. Our emotions are like a guiding light, and we should learn to use them to make positive choices in our lives.
In today’s fast-paced world, we often find ourselves regretting the choices we make. We become so consumed with our daily tasks and responsibilities that we forget to take a moment to reflect on our actions. It’s easy to fall into the habit of constantly regretting our decisions, but doing so only leads to a life of misery and disappointment.
The Turkish proverb, “pişman olmayı kendine âdet edinirsen boyuna pişman olur durursun!” translates to “if you make regret a habit, you will always be regretful! Eventually, you will even regret your regret! Half of your life will be spent in misery, and the other half will be wasted in regret! Abandon this way of thinking and seek a better life, better friends, and better opportunities!”
It’s important to acknowledge that mistakes are a part of life, and no one is perfect. However, constantly dwelling on past mistakes only leads to negative thoughts and emotions. Instead, it’s essential to learn from our mistakes and move forward with a positive mindset.
In addition to letting go of regret, it’s crucial to treat ourselves and others with kindness and compassion. The phrase “ezel sofrası üzerinde her ne kadar halk kavgadaysa da, yediler ve yerlerse de, sofra yine o sofradır, hoş geldin de” translates to “even if there is a quarrel at the eternal table, they still eat and dine together. It’s still the same table, so welcome it with a smile and kind words. This way, the beauty of its unique existence will shine through.”
Similarly, we must remember that our body and soul are interconnected. Our soul is our best friend and companion, and we must nurture it as such. The phrase “şu tenimiz ruhumuzun bir köşküdür. orası bir tepe, bit yıkık yer değildir” translates to “our body is the palace of our soul. It’s not a broken-down place but a high peak.” We must take care of our physical and mental health to ensure that our soul thrives.
In the realm of philosophy, there are certain thought experiments that challenge the way we think about the nature of identity, change, and continuity. One such thought experiment is the paradox of Theseus’s Ship, an ancient puzzle that has intrigued philosophers for centuries. At its core, it raises profound questions about what it means for something—or someone—to remain the same over time, even when it undergoes significant changes. 
In life, we all face challenges. Whether at work, in relationships, or in the pursuit of personal goals, problems are an unavoidable part of the journey. These obstacles can test our patience, resilience, and growth. However, some people seem to create their own problems—sometimes without even realizing it. They may subconsciously make choices that lead to unnecessary difficulties or adopt a mindset that attracts more conflict. Then, they take on the role of the victim, acting as though life has been unfair to them. This behavior not only creates emotional strain for those around them but is also deeply harmful to the person doing it. Why? Because those who play the victim of their own problems always lose. They lose control over their lives, their potential for growth, and their ability to change their circumstances. 
The saying “If you’ve become arrogant, you no longer need another enemy.” carries profound wisdom about the dangers of arrogance and how it can become a person’s greatest adversary. Arrogance blinds us to our own flaws, prevents us from learning from others, and often isolates us from those who could help us grow. When we allow arrogance to take hold, we sabotage our own success, relationships, and personal growth, making external enemies unnecessary—our worst enemy becomes ourselves. We become so consumed with self-importance that we fail to recognize the opportunities for improvement and connection all around us.